Feeling stretched thin and spiritually dry can make even simple moments at home feel heavy. The noise fades, the house settles, and yet the mind keeps spinning with lists, worries, and a quiet ache. In this place of exhaustion, it can feel as if we're running on empty, disconnected from the peace and joy that seem promised but out of reach. Yet, the book of Ephesians meets that ache with a steady voice: reminding us—we are chosen, we are loved, we are sealed with the Holy Spirit. This identity doesn’t erase the mess, but it reframes it with grace. Paul, writing from a jail cell, exemplifies surprising joy, lifting our eyes to what is already true in Christ. As we navigate the daily demands of parenting, work, and conflict, we find a solid foundation in His promises. Instead of trying harder, we learn to live grounded, receiving peace rather than chasing it, allowing grace to flow from identity and not from performance, and shaping a home where kindness and courage can truly take root.


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Reframed by Grace: Resting in Our True Identity

The opening sweep of Ephesians declares that God has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in Christ, a startling promise for anyone who feels under-resourced. Before our failures and fears could dictate our worth, God chose us, inviting us into His eternal story. That choice leads to redemption through Jesus and a sealing by the Spirit—a permanent belonging that no mood, mistake, or long night can undo. When Paul prays that our eyes would see the hope, riches, and power already at work, it is more than a call for knowledge; it is an invitation to awakening. For parents and caregivers, this is vital because spiritual fatigue often disguises itself as impatience or numbness. Remembering that we are God’s workmanship—His masterpiece—loosens the grip of shame and picks up purpose. We begin to see parenting not as a test to pass but as a place where grace can be practiced daily, where God’s steady love forms our words and responses.

Unity: The Next Move of Grace

Unity becomes the next move of grace. Paul celebrates how Jesus tears down dividing walls—between Jew and Gentile in his time, and between “us” and “them” in ours. In our homes and churches, unity is not accidental; it is intentionally guarded through humility, patience, and gentleness. This is more than a moral directive; it’s a spiritual posture secured by the cross. When we rest in belonging, we can pursue peace without fear of losing ourselves. We find courage to forgive quickly, speak truth with love, and resist the easy drift into sarcasm, resentment, or silent withdrawal. Unity does demand sacrifice, but it also provides profound relief as we stop fighting for a fragile identity and start living from a secure one. The fruit of unity is practical—fewer reactive words and more thoughtful pauses, disarming conflict with patient curiosity and nurturing trust.

Embracing the Overflow of Love

In the middle of his letter, Paul's prayer roots us deeper—to be strengthened by the Spirit, to host Christ in our hearts through faith, and to be grounded in love wide enough to outlast our worst days. This prayer dispels the subtle lie that love is a limited resource. Divine love is not a budget to manage; it’s a river to stand in. When we run on fumes, we often reach for hacks—tips, tricks, shortcuts—anything for a quick fix. Yet, what we truly need is overflow, which comes from the still moments where we allow ourselves to be deeply loved. This overflow transforms how we correct a child, respond to a spouse, or face a looming deadline. It changes devotion from a chore into a lifeline and moves prayer from a last resort to a first line of defense. The result isn't polished perfection but a resilient tenderness, allowing us to repent faster, reconcile quicker, and return to gratitude even after challenging hours.

The Walk Worthy: A Lifestyle of Visible Faith

Shifting from identity to practice, Paul calls us to “walk worthy,” a lifestyle that makes our beliefs visible. Maturity isn’t about having bigger libraries; it’s about cultivating softer hearts and stronger backbones. We put off the old self—resentment, self-protection, and corrosive talk—and put on the new self, renewed in holiness. This is the slow work of sanctification, learned in real time when tempers run hot and patience runs thin. Each step in this walk is a choice to live from the abundance we have in Christ, to let His love be the motivator and guide in our daily interactions and decisions.

Feeling spiritually dry doesn't need to define us. When we align ourselves with the truths found in Ephesians, we find the strength and grace to walk through life’s challenges with renewed purpose. If you're seeking a deeper connection with your faith and looking for peace amidst chaos, join me for an empowering Aroma of Christ Coaching Hour + Peace RESET to explore practical steps for spiritual fulfillment. Save your seat today.




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Hi friend, I’m Paula

 
… a grandma, pastor and follower of Jesus

I've always felt pulled to the quiet, sacred spaces where transformation happens—not in the spotlight of large ministries, but in the intimate moments of women (and men's) lives. As a spiritual midwife, I walk alongside Christian women, guiding them through the space between struggle and breakthrough, helping them uncover their God-given identity.

Faith, Coaching, and Lived Experience

Unlike many, my approach stems from real-life wisdom, not just theory. 

  • As a Christian coach and certified practitioner in holistic techniques, I draw from my own story to teach others.
  • I believe in the power of small steps that add up over time, like starting with a simple prayer or a moment of journaling amidst the chaos of daily life.
  • Through one-on-one coaching, I help women build sustainable devotional rhythms that bring calm and clarity, transforming overwhelm into opportunities for revelation.
I'm passionate about empowering women to integrate faith into their everyday routines—whether that's balancing family, work, or personal growth. By weaving Scripture with practical self-care strategies, I show how these elements can help you feel more connected to God and at peace in your relationships. As a mom and grandma myself, I understand the profound influence we have on our children and grandchildren, and I love reminding women of the eternal impact of their faithful steps.

Embracing Your Unique Calling

At the heart of my work is a celebration of individuality, inspired by truths like those in Psalm 139:14, which reminds us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. I see the God-sized potential in every woman I meet, even when it's hidden under layers of busyness or doubt. My gifts—empathetic listening, biblical insight, and a knack for creating sacred rhythms—serve as bridges between ancient faith and modern life. I encourage you to give yourself room to breathe, to honor your unique path, and to make it doable today by taking those first, gentle steps toward freedom and empowerment.

If you're yearning for a deeper connection with God, more balance in your daily life, and the tools to strengthen your faith, I'm here to guide you. Let's start that journey together—save your seat for an Aroma of Christ Coaching Hour + Peace RESET and discover how small, consistent changes can lead to lasting transformation.


Reverend Paula Behrens
Ordained Pastor, Certified Aroma Freedom Practitioner, Christian Coach & Podcaster (Top 5% Globally)


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